Do you guys have a person? That one person you tell everything to- big or small, monumental or mundane? Someone that you can be yourself with, without fear of judgement and (hopefully) vice versa? Of course, my husband Michael is that person for me, but I feel like he has a little bit of an obligation to be an ear and a shoulder when it is needed. Afterall, he put a ring on my finger knowing darn well that those are my expectations of the relationship I want with a partner (which he exceeds, I’ll have you know).
But I’m not talking about that. I’m talking about a person who does not have to show up if they don’t want to. A person that, given the choice, without a doubt, would never leave you high and dry. Regardless of what is going on in their own life, they make time and space for what is going on in yours.
Do you have a person? I sure hope you have the pleasure of experiencing this type of bond, at least once, because let me tell you, it is immeasurable.
I am lucky enough to have a person in my life that fits this bill. I really, truly don’t know what I’d do without her. And honestly, Michael (and probably a few other people in my life as well) probably wouldn’t know what to do with me, if I didn’t have her to bounce things off of.
If you’re reading this, you know who you are. And I hope that you know just how grateful I am for you, especially in this season of life. You have allowed me to lean on you more than any other person (and I’ve leaned a bit more than I really should have), and I just don’t know what I’d do without you.
You have seen me through a lot of life, especially lately. You have hugged me (from afar, because you know, Covid-19 and being socially responsible and all that) during my recent miscarriage, which I would chalk up to one of the hardest, darkest times of my life. You have been a voice of reason when I’ve needed it most. You have told me when I’m being outrageous or ridiculous or none of those things at all.
You are always honest and true to yourself. And I admire you immensely for that.
You are one of the kindest people I’ve had the pleasure of knowing. You take on the weight of the world for the people you hold dear, regardless of the weight that is already on your shoulders. You would never dream of leaving a friend or family member feeling alone. You have the biggest heart, and I hope every day that I can be more like you.
You’ve been there for the big stuff, but you’ve also been there for the small. You’ve been there for just about everything. You are 9 times out of 10 the first person I think to call when something happens (sorry Michael, but tbh, he knows his place, lol).
You never try to fix things unless you know I need help doing so. You lend sound advice, but only when you know I need to hear it. And you always ask first, because you know that unsolicited advice can be one of the worst things.
But most of all, you always have space for me. Regardless of what I might be going through, you are ALWAYS there.
I hope that I do the same for you. Sometimes, I worry that our relationship is one-sided. Because I seem to need you a lot.
I don’t know that I will ever be able to completely put into words how much it means to have you to lean on, day in and day out.
When I think of everything you really do for me and how big of a role you play in my life, the words “thank you” don’t seem like enough. But because I don’t know of a word that carries the weight that this deserves, I will say, thank you.
Thank you for being there. Thank you for being present. Thank you for making space, always. Thank you for listening, like REALLY listening. Thank you for holding my thoughts, fears, questions, heartbreak and triumphs as close to your heart as I do mine. You are a true treasure and I love you more than I will ever adequately be able to put into words.
Thank you for being my person.